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We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode, sponsored by Betterhelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement.  Today, we’re chatting with Kathleen Glasgow about her YA novel “You’d Be Home Now,” which tackles substance abuse and the opioid crisis. Note that we also talk about self-harm in this episode.  Buy the book here or wherever you shop books. You can also learn more about alllllll of Kathleen’s books here. And check out our sponsor this week: BetterHelp — betterhelp.com/ttfa Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.Read the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate.

Description: In March, a New York Times article made the rounds titled, “How Long Should It Take to Grieve? Psychiatry Has Come Up With an Answer.” And if that sentence alone makes you roll your eyes and want to punch an inanimate object, you’ve come to the right place.  Nora read the article (twice) and had … some thoughts. So did her friend — and former TTFA guest — Brittany Freeman Jean-Louis. Note: In this episode, Nora refers to a previous TTFA episode called “Untying Knots.” Here, she refers to it as “Untangling Knots.” Untying? Untangling? Close enough, right?Grieving Shouldn’t Be a Privilege by Nora McInerny  How Long Should It Take to Grieve? Psychiatry Has Come Up With An Answer by Ellen Barry “Untying Knots” - TTFA episode featuring Britt “What's Going to Happen to Me?” – TTFA episode featuring Britt Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.Read the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate. And check out our sponsors this week: BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/ttfa Scribd: scribd.com/ttfa

 Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. Join the TTFA reading club: TTFA.org/readingclub Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate

Our language surrounding mental illness has evolved a lot over the past couple of decades … to a point. There are still some mental illnesses that exist outside of the bounds of most people’s understanding and compassion, that are not so easily accepted and are really scary to people who don’t have them. Illnesses that make the person seem “crazy,” where people might not want to associate themselves with you. Today’s guest -- Brettina -- has one of those. Resources: “Why Borderline Personality Disorder is Misdiagnosed” from NAMI  Building a Life Worth Living by Marsha Linehan Follow @TheBrettina on InstagramWant (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.Read the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate. And check out our sponsors this week: Talkspace: talkspace.com with code TTFA

Some holidays are just more loaded than others, depending on our individual experiences. When you’re grieving the loss of your mother — either because they’ve died or because you don’t have a relationship with them — what the heck are you supposed to do with a holiday like Mother’s Day?  When a listener reached out to Nora after their mom died to ask for advice on moving forward, Nora decided to tap into the Terrible Rolodex of accidental grief experts … past TTFA guests and listeners and friends of the pod who have been there. Special thanks to Kate Spencer, Jessica Pearce Rotondi, Kari Harbath, Megan Palmer, Danielle Henderson, Dani Shapiro, Dr. Anna Roth, and TTFA Listeners Jeremy, Shana, and Analisa.Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.Read the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate. And check out our sponsors this week: Ritual: ritual.com/thanks StoryWorth: storyworth.com/ttfa

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode, sponsored by Betterhelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement. Today, we’re chatting with Christine Pride about her book co-authored with Jo Piazza, “We Are Not Like Them.” Buy the book here or wherever you shop books. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. And check out our sponsor this week: BetterHelp — betterhelp.com/ttfa Join the TTFA reading club: TTFA.org/readingclubOur twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.comRead the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate.

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. Join the TTFA reading club: TTFA.org/readingclub Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate

Michael Allio was a fan favorite on Katie Thurston’s recent season of “The Bachelorette,” applauded for the vulnerability he showed the literal world as he talked about losing his wife, Laura, to cancer and raising his son James without his mom.  Losing a partner to cancer? Raising a young son on your own? Sounds familiar … Michael came across Nora’s TED Talk shortly after Laura died, and when he reached out to the podcast, we knew we had to get these two on a call together.  To listen to Nora’s full conversation with Michael, subscribe to TTFA Premium at TTFA.org/Premium. For $7.99 a month, you get access to bonus content, ad-free episodes, full-length interviews and more. For information about the L4Project, visit l4project.com. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.Read the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate.

Grief comes with so much judgment. Everybody is sure that there's a right way to do it, and only for a certain length of time. If our grief doesn’t neatly fit into a category, we worry that it’s illegitimate. Erin knows this judgment very well. She’s a widow … or is she? Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.Read the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate. And check out our sponsors this week: Scribd: scribd.com/ttfa Oregon State University Lecture by Mary Karr: Register here

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode, sponsored by Betterhelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement. Today, we’re chatting with Dylan Marron about his soon-to-be-released book, “Conversations With People Who Hate Me.” You can pre-order/buy Dylan’s book here and at bookstores everywhere.  Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. And check out our sponsor this week: BetterHelp — betterhelp.com/ttfa Join the TTFA reading club: TTFA.org/readingclubOur twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.comRead the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate.

In 2020, we asked how it was going in there … wherever it was you were isolating, quarantining, social distancing. Somehow, it’s been *checks watch* TWO YEARS of COVID and so much more, so we thought it was time for another check-in. How *is* it going in there, Terribles? Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.Read the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate. And check out our sponsors this week: Laurel Box: laurelbox.com with code TTFA Rothy’s: rothys.com/terrible Purple: purple.com/thanks10 with code terrible10 StoryWorth: storyworth.com/ttfa

Danielle’s daughter Della was a quintessential “good baby.” She slept through the night almost from the get go. She rarely cried! But when Danielle started weaning her, little Della would just … not eat. Could not eat. Her tiny body rebelled against her with every food she tried. When your baby lives with a chronic illness that wants to kill her, each day brings more anxiety. And it’s especially tough when you’re Della. Della’s GoFundMe is here Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.Read the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate. And check out our sponsors this week: Talkspace: talkspace.com with code TTFA Laurel Box: laurelbox.com with code TTFA BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/ttfa

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. Join the TTFA reading club: TTFA.org/readingclub Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate

Growing up, Dani Shapiro never felt like she truly belonged to the orthodox Jewish community she lived in. All around her were kids who dressed and prayed and looked alike … and then, there was Dani — a fair-skinned, fair-haired, blue-eyed little Jewish girl.  Dani spent much of her early writing career authoring fictional stories about secrets within families, not knowing that she would soon learn her own family had a big secret: Dani herself. You can find all of Dani’s books, including Inheritance and Slow Motion, on Indiebound or wherever you buy books. Dani’s podcast is called “Family Secrets.” Listen here or wherever you get your podcasts. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.Read the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate. And check out our sponsors this week: Ritual: ritual.com/thanks OkCupid: okcupid.com Talkspace: talkspace.com with code TTFA Rothy’s: rothys.com/terrible

 Today, we’re bringing you something special: a new podcast produced by Pineapple Street Studios called “Love Thy Neighbor.” It’s a story about immigration, white flight, the downfall of New York City’s first Black mayor, and the rise of Rudolph Giuliani. It’s also a story about the host’s own journey as a Black, Jewish New Yorker … and what it means to be a neighbor. Give this preview a listen and, if you want more, find the full episode wherever you get your podcasts. We’ll be listening right along with you. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.Read the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate.

When someone we love dies, we become the vessels responsible for carrying their memory forward. The people we love stay alive in the big things, of course … but in the little things, too. When a listener shared an inside joke with the Terrible community about her late husband, we knew it was the beginning of an episode. Today, we share your stories, your inside jokes, your memories about your people. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.Read the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate.And check out our sponsors this week: Ritual: ritual.com/thanks OkCupid: okcupid.com Talkspace: talkspace.com with code TTFA Rothy’s: rothys.com/terrible Purple: purple.com/thanks10 with code terrible10

Liam was raised as a girl, but from a very young age he knew that just … didn’t make sense. When he comes out to his evangelical Christian parents as a young adult — first as a lesbian, then as a trans man — it unfortunately goes exactly how he expected it to. This episode includes anecdotes and language that disparages the LGBTQIA+ community and trans experience. We include them with Liam’s explicit permission, as they play a role in his story as a trans man. We also refer to Liam by his birth name (and he refers to himself by his birth name) at times during this episode.  For more tips on how to be a better ally to transgender people, visit GLAAD’s resource center.Follow Liam on TikTok.Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.Read the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate.And check out our sponsors this week: Ritual: ritual.com/thanks OkCupid: okcupid.com Talkspace: talkspace.com with code TTFA Rothy’s: rothys.com/terrible

In our “Behind The Scammer” episode, you met Celisia Stanton and Rev. Gonzales, two people who had their life savings stolen from them by their financial advisor, a man named Isaiah Goodman. We intentionally focused that episode on the scammed – on the victims. But we do have a duty to reach out to the subject of any story and say “Hey, do you want to comment on this?” So we did. And Isaiah agreed to an interview, from inside federal prison.Celisia’s podcast is called “Truer Crime,” and you can (and should!) listen to it here. She also set up a GoFundMe to help the Gonzales family recoup some of their financial losses. You can help them here.Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.Read the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate.And check out our sponsors this week: Homechef: homechef.com/terriblethanks Ritual: ritual.com/thanks OkCupid: okcupid.com Talkspace: talkspace.com with code TTFA Rothy’s: rothys.com/terrible Ethos: ethoslife.com

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. Join the TTFA reading club: TTFA.org/readingclub Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate

We are all just products of the people who raise us. And they are products of those who raised them. Vanessa Zoltan knows that better than most. She is the grandchild of four Holocaust survivors, and for her, nihilism and depression kind of run in the family.  Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.You can purchase Nora’s books here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.Read the transcript for this episode here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate.And check out our sponsors this week: Ritual: ritual.com/thanks OkCupid: okcupid.com Talkspace: talkspace.com with code TTFA Thirdlove: thirdlove.com/TERRIBLE Scribd: scribd.com/ttfa